What a Pain!

It would make sense that we address pain since we looked at pleasure. We are oriented to avoid it at all costs. Pain isn't evil as some would have it. Pain has benefits and is a product in the same way that pleasure is. Bodily pain can remind us we are overdoing it  or have a problem. The pain isn't the problem itself but a result. Sensual pain does have benefits too. A song that is out of key or a instrument that is out of tune can be painful to a skilled musician. But that is a good thing since adjustments make the music sound better. It seems that when pain comes, it is can be an indicator for improvement.
We avoid some of the things we desire because of the pain involved. When we look at matters of the soul, the same principles that apply to the body apply there. We don't have to avoid reality to see something isn't feasible because all the pain involved in getting it. In situations where there is a strong desire but a need to do what is right, there is no need to hide or deny the desire. It is a matter of choice. It is reasonable to move toward what would cause the least pain and preserve the most pleasure. In relationships, all the people involved are included in this. Adjustments can be made for a manageable amount of what one desires or it can be avoided altogether. But whatever decisions are made we have to be prepared to endure the pain on one side because of the loss, while enjoying the pleasures that we chose to move toward. This is only complicated by our aversion to pain.