Satisfaction

It has already been stated that conflict can be avoided by having clear expectations in a relationship. There are three types of affection: The enjoyment of commonalities; pleasure or entertainment; and utility. None is superior or inferior to the other because they all have necessary application and varying degrees. It is good to recognize this to excel at participating each interaction. But there can still be conflicts since no one is an angel and we need laws. We looked at poor character and conflicts within ourselves but even with those with good character, things occasionally have to be resolved.

It is hard to imagine conflicts in a love relationship based on commonalities. By definition the two that are participating are doing so voluntarily out of a common soul. They look out for what is best for the other and the relationship isn't for personal gain. They get satisfaction out of making the other happy. This will cause them to actually delight in getting less seeing the other get more. But these relationships are rare as we have mentioned previously.

Friendships based in entertainment aren't complicated either. These are based on having fun and if it isn't fun, a person only has to follow the rule of moving on to something else. We can turn off the channel if a show ceases to be fun and cut off friends that bring us down. It doesn't take a lot of study to figure this one out since the fun is subject to preference. If someone continues to go out with those they don't prefer, we would ask why they torture themselves; there isn't much judgment or resolution involved.

The vast majority of conflicts occur in the utility part of our relationships. Although people point out the extremes of complacency and greed in this area we also get a high degree of satisfaction there too. We as humans all have needs and unique skills. This exchange of usefulness toward each other is the basis for civility. We want both parties to come out of the deal smiling; but ask for resolution and judgment when things aren't fair. A country will want each of its citizens to participate by using their particular skills to its fullest potential. It is a tragedy when few get to do so in a society. We experience a great amount of excitement and fulfillment when we can be creative in whatever area we enjoy. Cultures place different values on these products and skills. A star actor today compared to one two hundred years ago had different wages as do blacksmiths now and back then. Usefulness has a broad range of applications; from marriage to corporations. Lets look at how we apply justice to these exchanges.

There is nothing wrong with self interest. To say that it is possible to be unselfish is unrealistic. Even a religious person is after favor with God and hopes for a fair reward. When a person has a  need and finds a provider, the two parties make an agreement on what they think is a fair exchange. Of course when they negotiate, the seller overvalues while the buyer undervalues.What they agree to is between themselves and requires no laws. In order to be just though, they should stick to the original agreement and not change the terms. With morals, we have goodness that we all go by and there are principles that can be defined. The same goes with agreements of exchange, they can be assumed or written. The goal is for both to have a high degree of satisfaction..