Driving through a couple of towns I had grown up in, I became frustrated because traffic went so slow. The old four and five lanes I was familiar with had been turned into three lanes with bike trails. I have never seen a bike in one of the trails and it seemed unfair that slow drivers could control the road. The towns were so much more vibrant when I was young and living in them. A part of it was the dynamics of a five lane road.
On a three lane road, there are less accidents according to studies. The reason of course is that all the traffic is forced to go at the pace of the slowest driver. People who want to get somewhere, or fast paced people, are forced to slow to the pace of those who want to dawdle through life. People who have business to attend to or simply want to get from one end of town to the other must have their pace dictated by vacationers and Sunday drivers. This is a microcosm of the pitfalls of social control that applies to every area of life. Controlling the group with micromanagers always sounds good in theory but it kills ambition.
On a four and five lane road, the left lane is for fast paced and the right for slow. Some states value their fast paced people so much that they put warning signs up for the slow people to stay in the right lane where they belong. Good people respect that and the fast laners can wave at the slow people as they go by. Nothing wrong with going slow and on easy days a fast pacer might enjoy the slow lane for a while. Problems occur when slow drivers become controlling and want to control traffic by driving in the left lane. They end up getting their way all the time with three lane roads. The four lane system is the more vibrant and fun. I suppose left turners on a four lane can cause a bit more lane switching but it isn't a problem for alert drivers. Anything is better than being caught behind a slow driver.
In school it was the same way. The entire class went at the pace of the slowest learner. I enjoyed self paced classes for that reason. It can be hard for a fast paced student to sit still in a slow paced class. We have ambitious people in a society who work hard to get ahead too. Those who are satisfied with status quo and below will have the resultant lifestyle. Neither attitude is an evil to society but when social planners hold ambition back by championing status quo and demonizing ambition, incentive suffers. There are periods in our lives where we may become poorer and slower paced due to retirement or disability. But regardless the reason, each person should be respected and encouraged where they are at. We should make room for them; a right lane so to speak. Successful people should also be respected and allowed to continue uninhibited. Profits are the result of good management and a good demand for the service. None of this is evil. Lets give them a left lane.
There are always impatient drivers at one extreme and ornery slowpokes at the other. But this doesn't mean that every fastlaner and slowlaner should be characterized as such. Perhaps our kids should be taught tolerance and to enjoy differences in ambitions. We could call it pacial discrimination. Don't criticize those who are fast paced, step aside, and let them pass. Be patient with those who are slow, give them a lane, and let them enjoy.
I like the dynamics of having fast and slow lanes. Studies show that variety gives us longevity in life. Wave at me as I pass you going to work and I will wave back as you pass me on your way. I'll have fun enjoying the view and I hope you make it to work on time!
Wednesday, July 15, 2015
Friday, July 3, 2015
Masculine verses Feminine
I've recently read a book called "The Way of a Superior Man" by David Deida. It is more of a spiritualist's view on the dynamics between men and women. Although it is a bit lewd at times and neutral as far as gender and religion go, he still makes valid points concerning masculinity and femininity. It is hard to do a book justice with a summary, but we can hit on a few points.
Anyone can show masculine and feminine traits in their lives. Those who are in the masculine role in life will crave feminine energy and vice versa. When we embrace who we are and enjoy the energy opposites give us, we become satisfied. First we need to define these roles and not be ashamed of them.
The emphasis of the book is how a man can be masculine and meet the needs of his woman. This not only allows her to feel satisfied in life, but his needs will be met in the process. When two don't get along or when changes occur in life, problems in passions usually can be traced back to a lack of embracing roles in life.
The feminine characteristics are more emotional and yet are true for the moment. To the masculine, they seem chaotic at times. She is going to test the one in the male role to his limits. But what she is after is a man who is nonplused by it. There are also cool comforting feminine traits. These comfort a man especially when he is under a lot of stress in his life.
Masculine traits that the feminine desires are decisiveness and mission. She might want a role in decisions but becomes settled when her man makes them. She might have a broad spectrum of wants and desires, but likes it when a man makes plans to satisfy them. If a woman is bitchy and unsatisfied, a man has to look at two possibilities, either he isn't fulfilling his role or she isn't the right person for him.
When a man has a stressful and chaotic life, he will gravitate toward someone with the cool comforting traits. When things are going well and he is confident, he will gravitate toward someone who has more fire and is emotional. This is why a guy might get involved with an office girl when a job is stressful and why, after life has settled, he might crave an emotional person. When a female who has fire and is emotional becomes more confident and secure, she might become comfortable with a male who is more spontaneous and free.
One point he makes is that a sexual relationship is for two committed people. The "reach a climax and die" part of sex will leave both unsatisfied without the rest of the relationship. When life changes bring us to the point of different wants, it doesn't always involve changing partners. He gives ideas on how to get the traits we desire out of the person we are with. For instance, he says that doing everything together causes our traits to dull against each other and for contrast, women should be encouraged to go out and celebrate their feminity. Males should go out with the guys and party once and a while too.
There should be no issue with enjoying and drawing energy from those who have the traits we desire. We should drink it in and enjoy it as long as it doesn't complicate our lives. He gives advice to males on how to avoid turning the good energy between opposites into sensual desire. Of course this is only a quick summary, I think this is a book that every young man should read.
Anyone can show masculine and feminine traits in their lives. Those who are in the masculine role in life will crave feminine energy and vice versa. When we embrace who we are and enjoy the energy opposites give us, we become satisfied. First we need to define these roles and not be ashamed of them.
The emphasis of the book is how a man can be masculine and meet the needs of his woman. This not only allows her to feel satisfied in life, but his needs will be met in the process. When two don't get along or when changes occur in life, problems in passions usually can be traced back to a lack of embracing roles in life.
The feminine characteristics are more emotional and yet are true for the moment. To the masculine, they seem chaotic at times. She is going to test the one in the male role to his limits. But what she is after is a man who is nonplused by it. There are also cool comforting feminine traits. These comfort a man especially when he is under a lot of stress in his life.
Masculine traits that the feminine desires are decisiveness and mission. She might want a role in decisions but becomes settled when her man makes them. She might have a broad spectrum of wants and desires, but likes it when a man makes plans to satisfy them. If a woman is bitchy and unsatisfied, a man has to look at two possibilities, either he isn't fulfilling his role or she isn't the right person for him.
When a man has a stressful and chaotic life, he will gravitate toward someone with the cool comforting traits. When things are going well and he is confident, he will gravitate toward someone who has more fire and is emotional. This is why a guy might get involved with an office girl when a job is stressful and why, after life has settled, he might crave an emotional person. When a female who has fire and is emotional becomes more confident and secure, she might become comfortable with a male who is more spontaneous and free.
One point he makes is that a sexual relationship is for two committed people. The "reach a climax and die" part of sex will leave both unsatisfied without the rest of the relationship. When life changes bring us to the point of different wants, it doesn't always involve changing partners. He gives ideas on how to get the traits we desire out of the person we are with. For instance, he says that doing everything together causes our traits to dull against each other and for contrast, women should be encouraged to go out and celebrate their feminity. Males should go out with the guys and party once and a while too.
There should be no issue with enjoying and drawing energy from those who have the traits we desire. We should drink it in and enjoy it as long as it doesn't complicate our lives. He gives advice to males on how to avoid turning the good energy between opposites into sensual desire. Of course this is only a quick summary, I think this is a book that every young man should read.
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