Unconditional

Unconditional relationships would be ideal. Unfortunately, some people have different perceptions on what is due and they take more than they ought. That is why we need rules and as a society we need laws. There are general rules that come natural and are out of consideration. Justice balances out what is taken and what is given so people can be satisfied. Satisfaction in this context means neither party feels violated. Natural justice is the best kind because it doesn't need a third party mediator. “Let’s just keep this between you and me” is how we want our relationships to be. Even in financial transactions, natural justice denotes a kind of friendship between two people. To walk away from a deal with mutual respect is important. We like having the ability to give someone a deal and get a bargain ourselves. But there will be times when one party rips off another and we need laws to limit the damage and rectify the situation.

We say true love is unconditional. And love is forever. It also true that love is the ultimate acceptance of another person with all their flaws but we still make marriage vows to guarantee that kind of love. People change or might try to take advantage of one other. We have laws in our culture that try to keep things even when that occurs.  Whenever a third party is needed to mediate in interactions between any two people, we can assume the free association has been violated by one or the other and it is a sad thing. “Let’s keep this between ourselves”, is the ideal.

It would be nice if we could always be free to use our potential. Unfortunately, it is a human trait to do what is easy. In everything we do there comes a time when it becomes drudgery. We have to use self-discipline to complete the things we start. We strive to have justice within ourselves between our passions and our reason.  As a youth we work hard to get the self-discipline needed and as time goes by we miss the passion. There is a system of justice inside of all of us where passion and reason each have the part in our lives that is due them.  We don’t want a third party to come in and set the limits for us and violate our free will. This can be at our jobs or in our leisure; in relationships with others or in what we do alone. The ideal is that we work it out within ourselves. This isn't always possible and sometimes we do need help and support.  

The point is that as much as we hate it, we need self-discipline and sometimes we need help. The best kinds of rules are those we set ourselves. If we cede anything to a third party, it better have good character and the scope must be limited so it doesn't impede our passions any more than is necessary. This includes rules, laws and people. No one wants to be lorded over. And there are too many that are willing to be this way. Some do it to feel better about themselves at our expense and others do it to acquire gain from our misfortune. It might be a perceived standard of perfection they want to impose. But help should always lead toward independent thought, unleashing our potential and the ability to rule one’s self.