Hope for the Best

I took a course once that included a study on self talk. People who are unhappy tend to ruminate. Their minds get in a cycle of seeing disasters in everything rather than good outcomes. The same thing is true when it comes to our study. (I edited the end of the last post so it makes better sense.) We tell ourselves to gather our wits or to get it together. That means to stop and think about what is possible and focus on them rather than worrying about millions of bad outcomes. It doesn't mean to abandon dreams. We have read about how certain things are voluntary and involuntary and the factors involved in making choices. An important point in the last post is that no matter how hard we plan things out and how good our choices, there are always things outside our control that can change the outcome. Some people end up with things simply because the things outside their control lined up. How hard a person worked at it isn't the major factor in accomplishment, although hard work helps. All outcomes have an element of uncertainties coming together. That is why we shouldn't worry. The best we can do is the best we can do. We move on without guilt, adjust for mistakes and hope for the best. Choice is the foundation for  freedom and when we seem to run out of options,we can always create new, fresh ones. The mall of ideas is a fun place to shop..